How to find out if you are boring

It's rare that someone goes through life without meeting someone boring – but finding out if you're the boring one!

Nothing is worse than being stuck in a meeting, at dinner, or in the car with someone boring and boring. There's nothing you can do about it, but it can make the best topics tiresome and tiresome. But what if you realized you were the boring one? At some point, lack of energy, lack of spirit, and other things can make you temporarily dull. But in the long run it's boring, which is painful for you and others. How to find out if you are boring.

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The University of Essex in the United Kingdom published an article about the characteristics of boring people. It was published in the Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin and covered personal characteristics and the most boring hobbies (the top hobbies – watching TV, bird watching and smoking). Most people (53%) have 1-4 close friends, while (38%) report having five or more. About 8% say they have no close friends. You can not only promote friendships, but also family and partner relationships if you follow this advice.

Listening skills

Boring people make poor conversationalists, and poor conversationalists tend to be the worst listeners. Communication is as much about talking as it is about being silent and listening to what the other person is saying. An exciting conversation does not consist of the funniest jokes and the most interesting stories, but is a conversation in which ideas are exchanged and conversations are had. Discover a curious streak and you will learn and time will be more interesting. Ask relevant questions and let those in the know express themselves.

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Practice patience

Conversations are not a competition, but an opportunity to learn and connect with others. Basic conversational etiquette, “It’s your turn, it’s my turn,” is taught from a young age. It's no surprise that some people lack self-control and allow themselves to take over conversations without giving others a chance to have their say. Work on controlling impulses and push yourself to listen to others.

On the other hand, if your problem is being too shy and finding it difficult to open up, try practicing and finding ways to make yourself more approachable and express your opinion. Practice having conversations, reading information, and exploring interesting things with family or friends.

pay attention

Pay attention to other people's body language when speaking. If they seem distracted, avoid eye contact, and constantly try to change the subject, you are probably behaving in a very annoying and boring way. Train yourself to understand these cues and social cues and try not to use the conversational cue for too long. It's okay to move on, sometimes it's you, sometimes it's them… but being aware of it can shorten a difficult situation.

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Create boundaries

Balance is one of the most important parts of conversations, but also quite difficult to define. Vulnerability is required for meaningful exchange, but too much of it is somehow disastrous. Think consistently about what you are talking about.

Complaining about how terrible your life is and how unfair your job is won't win you any friends, even if it's a common behavior. Always strive for sincerity and get to know your audience. Don't tell strangers your deepest, darkest secrets.