Tips to Support Cuffing Season

The leaves are falling, coats are appearing and people are starting to think long and hard about the cold months. For singles, the dark season creates additional hecticness when looking for a potential partner. Here are some important tips to help you during cuffing season.

Cuffing season is the time of year when singles focus on short-term relationships. It usually begins in the fall, around October, with a possible change in mid-spring. And while a months-long relationship with a fake expiration date may not sound particularly intriguing to some, there are benefits to being handcuffed. For some, the main benefit is that they need the comfort of a relationship to get through the festive holiday season and the bleak winter that follows.

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Scientifically speaking, there’s also a reason why some welcome cuffing season. “Hormones change depending on the season due to light and temperature,” Tristan Coopersmith, licensed psychotherapist and founder of Life Lab. “Our sex hormones, which are responsible for libido, are supercharged. We are literally hungrier for sex this time of year.”

Be clear

Be clear about what you want in the long term and short term. Setting expectations from the start will help your potential partners respond to your needs accordingly. This minimizes the risk of anyone getting hurt in the process and also weeds out anyone you don’t want to match with.

Be open

Some people have a dream idea of ​​who they think they want, but this can often lead to them missing the right person. As a Rolling Stones song says, “You can’t always get what you want, but if you try sometimes, you might find that you get what you need.” Opening yourself up to people who may not exactly what you are looking for can also expand your own thoughts, skills and ways of thinking.

Be flexible

There’s a saying from some Southern moms: “The quirks you think are adorable today are tomorrow’s annoyances.” You can’t change people. Look at the person you want to handcuff with clear eyes, not with the expectation that this is a project you need to complete. Accept them as you expect them to accept you as you are.

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While there’s no way to know whether people consciously seek relationships that only last through the winter, there is a large body of data that at least supports the fact that winter drives us all a little crazy. But you never know. If Hallmark movies have taught us anything, it’s that there are happy endings.