Boysober is a rising trend, is it right for you?

Boysober is a surprising trend in the dating world – is it right for you?

It seems that “swearing off” continues to be a trend. First came Movemeber in 2003, where men didn't shave and grew mustaches, then Dry January, then California Sober (where you stop drinking and only use marijuana), and now comes Boysober. What is that? It's a conscious break from dating and a focus on personal growth and self-discovery. A hard fact is that it is especially difficult to be in a relationship when you are not happy and satisfied with yourself. The term was coined by comedian Hope Woodard when she decided to take a break from various aspects of romantic activities. Since then, “Boys Over” has been a rising trend. Is this right for you?

Generation Z has problems when it comes to dating. They are the generation that uses dating apps the least. They also have difficulty with flirting, a skill that is honed through trial and error. This causes them to be the most fearful of any generation.

But for anyone, embracing the boysober can provide numerous personal benefits. It offers an opportunity for self-reflection and further development. The goal is that focusing on yourself can increase self-confidence and self-worth and allow you to build better relationships. Taking a break can help you better understand what you really want from a partner and what you may need to give them. Understanding is a central part of all relationships. It can reduce stress and anxiety that comes with dating pressure and boost self-esteem.

To begin the boysober, it is important to abstain from various aspects of romantic activities. The basic principles of “Boysober” include:

• No dating apps
• No appointments
• No ex-partners
• No situations
• No connections

This trend isn't about swearing off relationships forever, but rather about taking a conscious break from the often stressful and sometimes toxic world of modern dating.

Several factors contributed to the rise of the Boysober movement. The front runner is dating app fatigue. Many users, especially women, report harassment, abuse and disappointment on dating platforms. The constant swiping and superficial interactions have left many feeling burnt out and disillusioned.

Additionally, younger generations, particularly Generation Z, are re-evaluating traditional ideas about relationships and finding fulfillment in other aspects of life.

There is increasing emphasis on prioritizing personal needs and goals over romantic pursuits. This shift reflects a desire for self-improvement and healing from past relationship trauma. When you feel comfortable, it's easier for you to be in a give-and-take relationship and grow with someone.