
CannaDating – The Dos and Don’ts of Cannabis Relationships
While cannabis may be one thing most Americans agree on, it can also be a point of contention when it comes to relationships. Depending on how one of the partners in the relationship views cannabis use, it can either benefit the bond or make it worse. How do you do the weed talk with your new Bae?
I was inspired to write this article when I saw some Reddit posts talking about “problems” they were having because of a partner’s smoking, and in one case – a request from a son who was worried about the His father’s cannabis use.
Of course, family relationships are not considered in this particular piece – but I’ll definitely elaborate on this topic for a future article.
For now, let’s look at the do’s and don’ts of cannabis dating – if couples can exist when one person smokes and the other doesn’t, when cannabis use becomes the focus of your relationship, and more.
So put on Jimmy caps – we’ll go in!
Can a cannabis user and a non-cannabis user enter into a relationship?
In the current global landscape – it is much more typical to see these relationship combinations. Almost half of adults in the United States have admitted to having tried cannabis at least once in their life. This does not mean that they are actively smoking, but it does indicate that they have experimented with the substance at least once.
This shift in perspective enables these relationships to exist. If one partner has a strict “smoking ban” and the other is an active consumer, the relationship will lead to several violent emotional encounters.
This is because the relationship would be built on opposing intrinsic values and would require one side of the relationship to submit to the other. From that moment on, one side will always dominate the other – which over time creates feelings of malice, hatred, and contempt.
Contempt is the main predictor of divorce.
The only way for these types of relationships to exist would be to survive where the non-consumer agrees with the consumer’s behavior. There are relationships that work that way, and in most cases the non-using partner would have tried cannabis on occasion.
This enables the non-user to understand the state of the cannabis user and to accept the act.
It’s not like going to waste on alcohol – but try explaining it to someone who has never smoked before. If you can’t explain what it feels like to be high, you will never figure out what it means and you would fall back on your prejudices.
Can cannabis be a problem in a relationship?
While it is true that some people abuse cannabis, marijuana would not be the cause of the problem, it would be more likely to cause uncontrolled behavior on your partner. Everyone uses drugs on a daily basis.
When you have your morning coffee, use stimulants to keep your brain running. Did you put sugar in it? You have just created a cocktail of drugs to get your brain going.
Drug use is never really the problem when dealing with obsessive people. Addicts are naturally obsessive and fix their attention on a single act that they believe will lessen their perceived pain – which is on the opposite side of their transient joys.
So if “cannabis” is a problem, it is not so much the plant as it is the person who is obsessively fixated on the effects cannabis produces on them. As a partner in such a relationship, you need to ask yourself whether you are ready to work with these parameters.
Ultimates rarely work. You are either there for the ride or you are not.
If you are the person who has the “problem” with cannabis – you have to put up with the fact that you have to face the demons that you are running from to have “no problem”.
Most addicts know this truth at some basic level.
When cannabis becomes the center of a relationship
Sometimes two stoners meet and enjoy each other’s company, smoking weed on a first date is not a bad thing. They pull together, laugh together, but don’t grow together. They use cannabis as the glue that holds their relationship together.
If cannabis is the only reason you are with someone, then you should be wondering why you are with that person. If you don’t really like something about a certain person, you don’t need a relationship with them. Is It Better To Go Out With A Stoner? Maybe the other things about them are the problem or the good things.
Cannabis is an amazing plant with many benefits – however, if it’s the only reason you’re with someone or one of the main reasons – you better reconsider your priorities.
Ultimately, cannabis should be a background noise within the dynamics of a real relationship. True relationships are based on getting to know your partner on a fundamental level, peeling off the layers of who they really are – growing together.
If that’s not in the mix, you either have an unhappy relationship or one that ends in ruins.
The sticky end result
Cannabis will become more entrenched in daily life than these types of questions will only become more common. We are entering an era where cannabis use is not just okay – it is being commercialized and globalized.
Much like coffee changing our consciousness and allowing us to work later in the day, focus on more cerebral tasks – cannabis will have a greater impact on society as a whole.
We will begin to fundamentally change our consciousness, which will take place over the decades and centuries to come.
Cannabis has strange effects on people. It is almost as if they are able to “see” things from a different position – which makes them more sensitive to a person’s internal dialogues.
Sure – that doesn’t apply to everyone who smokes cannabis, but I can guarantee that there are millions of cannabis users who would agree that smoking weed made them much more “relaxed”. They didn’t care so much about shit that bothered them before.
They were able to separate “other” from “themselves”, which allowed them to tolerate others. What someone else does is not necessarily my business.
Simple – but this is a key aspect of most successful relationships. Being able to simply let the “other” be – without prejudice, without pressure.
If cannabis can increase this aspect in human relationships by at least 1%, it will leave its mark.
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